How Fear of a Climate Change Future Can Cause Couples to Struggle to Decide Whether to Have Children
This past month has been the hottest recorded global temperature in recorded history. But that is not new. The past few years have seen records broken one after another. It’s understandable for this to cause people distress, especially when most reports about the likely future with climate change are fairly grim.
These fears are causing people to alter their lives in preparation for a climate change future, and one of the ways they may do this is by reducing their desire to have children. This, in turn, can affect relationships, happiness levels, and more.
Living to Your Values
Now, the decision to have – or not have- children is uniquely personal, and there is no right or wrong reason. Fears over climate change may be perfectly valid reason, and there is no wrong choice when that choice comes from you and your values.
One of the challenges, however, is determining whether that choice is being affected by other factors, such as anxiety and depression. Many people are experiencing anxiety and depression as a result of climate change. Those conditions affect how a person thinks, how they make decisions, and more.
If you’re struggling with a climate-change related depression, and that is the reason you do not want to have children, then it may be worthwhile to work on that depression first before finalizing that decision. In the end, you may find that it is still very much within your values.
But you also do not want to wake up one day years into the future and regret the decision, either. If your decision was caused by anxiety/depression and not solely by your values and goals, then you may end up with regrets that can affect your mental health in the future. Evaluating how you’re feeling, why, and whether or not there is something worth treating first can thus be advantageous.
How Relationships and the Future Can Be Affected by Climate Change Fears
Similarly, the choice to have children is often one that people engage in as a couple. Partners may not have the same view of the climate or of the world. This is a decision you’ll often want to make together, and it would be harmful and hurtful if it was being influenced by anxiety/depression. It may affect your relationship together in ways that may not be ideal for your long term mental health.
Working with a Therapist
Therapy – either individually or with couples – can be a healthy and productive way to address and identify what your fears are and help you determine what your values are (yourself or you both as a couple). It can help you examine any internal struggles, whether or not you will be comfortable with your decision in the future, and what can be done to reduce anxiety should you ultimately decide that you may want a child but are still struggling with these fears.
Your choice to have children is personal and uniquely yours. But issues like anxiety can also cloud what your “true” self wants. Through therapy, we can determine what you really want, and – if anxiety is affecting your decision – how we can reduce your anxiety so that you can live with fewer regrets. Learn more about our therapy services by contacting Flourish Psychology, today.