EMDR is a fascinating therapy – one of the best tools we have for taking traumatic experiences and processing them so that they no longer control our lives.
Studies have shown that, during a traumatic event, the experience and memories of the event fragment and spread all throughout the brain. This causes them to never truly be processed and moved to long term storage the way that most experiences are, which is why a person still reacts to triggers in life as though the event is still happening.
With Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR), the person – in the presence of an EMDR therapist – uses eye movements, rhythmic motions, and guidance from the therapist to go through the events, access these fragments, and move them to long term memory. It’s a highly effective process that has received substantial research and attention, all of which confirms it is effective.
We’re finding that many different types of experiences can be processed with EMDR. Yet the process can differ depending on the trauma. For those with a very specific traumatic event – for example an assault or car accident – it is easy to envision what EMDR might look like. But what about something more ongoing? What about situations in which the trauma was not one experience, but an ongoing on, such as with childhood trauma and neglect?
EMDR for Traumatic Childhoods
When EMDR is focused on an ongoing experience rather than a specific one, the process can take longer and feel different, though the goals and science are very similar.
Childhood trauma often does not revolve around a single event. Instead, it may be issues such as:
- Years Of Neglect
- Repeated Exposure To Physical Or Emotional Conflict
- Emotional Abuse
- Unstable Caregiving
- Drug Use, And More
Each of these types of experiences disperse around the brain similarly, leaves fragments in memory that build on each other. In a way, you’re not addressing a single trauma, but multiple, and doing so in a way that helps each part process the next.
In this type of EMDR, the therapist works with the individual to identify the earliest or most impactful memories that represent those experiences. Rather than processing only one isolated memory, EMDR for childhood trauma often addresses a series of linked experiences that together shaped how the brain responds to the world.
Working through childhood trauma with EMDR can feel less like confronting a single painful event and more like revisiting patterns of experiences.
The EMDR therapist may guide the person to focus on a specific memory of neglect or abandonment, but through the process, other connected memories may surface. The rhythmic movements or bilateral stimulation help the brain safely revisit those moments and gradually move them into long-term memory, where they no longer trigger the same emotional or physical responses.
People often describe the process as tiring but relieving. Sessions may bring up intense emotions in the moment, but afterward, the memories lose their sharpness and stop feeling as though they are happening in the present.
Over time, this reduces not only trauma responses but also the beliefs formed in childhood, such as feeling unworthy, unsafe, or unloved.
Why EMDR Works Well for Childhood Trauma
Keep in mind that EMDR is one of many treatments available. We want to meet you first and talk to you about your experiences, to see if EMDR or another approach, like CBT, may be the right fit.
Still, EMDR remains a highly effective option.
Childhood trauma can be, with other approaches, difficult to treat because it is tied to development. The experiences often shape a child’s view of themselves and their relationships. How you feel now is directly related to your past, and so addressing these experiences also means addressing your entire belief system.
EMDR is powerful in these cases because it allows the brain to reprocess not just the memory, but also the emotions and beliefs tied to it, such as:
- Someone neglected in childhood may carry the belief that their needs are a burden. EMDR helps break that link by reframing those early experiences as memories rather than current truths.
- A person who lived in an unsafe or unpredictable home may still respond to conflict as if danger is imminent. EMDR helps reduce that automatic fear response by integrating the memories into long-term storage.
By targeting both the events and the negative self-beliefs that formed around them, EMDR allows healing at a deeper level than simply “remembering differently.”
Psychotherapy with Flourish Psychology of NYC
Healing childhood trauma with EMDR is rarely instant. It may take many sessions, and it may involve revisiting multiple layers of experiences. But progress is often steady. Over time, people notice that triggers lose their intensity, emotions feel more manageable, and the old beliefs tied to childhood no longer dictate how they live their lives.
Every individual’s journey with trauma is different, and so is the approach with EMDR. It all starts by connecting with a therapist first, allowing us to learn more about you, and then seeing where the EMDR takes us. If you’ve experienced childhood trauma and are interested in help, reach out to Flourish Psychology, today.